Why beauty matters – Physical beauty is tricky for many people because their self-esteem depends on it. Is this healthy? We analyze it.
We live in a society where aesthetics is highly promoted. Celebrities, actors and models are almost always Photoshopped in magazines to further refine their image. And, without realizing it, in this way, they make us believe that the most important thing is to have a perfect body. Outer beauty is becoming synonymous with success.
Why do so many women worry excessively about their physical appearance? We are in a time where the number of people who resort to aesthetic operations increases considerably. We try to present ourselves to others as gracefully as possible. Is it true that we manage to feel good about ourselves? Or do we do it consciously or unconsciously to like others?
Some, without realizing it, become obsessed with physical appearance. Their entire well-being revolves around whether or not they look presentable. Time goes by, and they do not accept that, with age, those first wrinkles can appear, that the body is no longer as smooth as in youth, etc.
Outer beauty is not everything.
At first, it is abroad that we all look at. It is what attracts attention. But, in the end, what makes you fall in love or not with another is a series of aspects of his personality: values, attitudes, personal treatment, attention, etc. However, many people base their happiness on their bodies alone, trying to make it as “perfect” as possible.
How to accept the passing of the years? How to stop giving so much importance to aesthetics? It is not easy in advertisements, and the media push us to use images. The inner essence is not valued so much, and the importance of knowing people deeply and not letting ourselves be carried away merely by their physical appearance.
The value of people is always in their essence, in their values, in their way of treating people, and in their way of behaving. In all those traits that make up our personality.
Suppose we can realize that the most important thing is inside. In that case, we can leave behind that dependency on continually wanting to please others, looking for flattery, wanting always to be handsome, and getting frustrated when we don’t like our appearance or when it deteriorates over the years.
How to know if we depend on our image?
We all have days when we are more physically favoured than others. Even the models and people we classify as beautiful feel that sometimes they have terrible faces. We can see if our priority is physical or our inner well-being on those days.
Nobody likes to have a bad image, but people dependent on being selected automatically ruin their day if they look bad; they cannot enjoy or socialize normally, and frustration with themselves appears. On the other hand, those who prioritize the interior may feel that they look bad but accept it, which does not prevent them from enjoying the day and social relationships. His external beauty does not condition him when interacting with others.
Adolescence: complex stage
Most teens prioritise their physique so that any flaw is magnified excessively, and they can refuse to leave the house. Also, if they can’t see themselves as they want, they are overly self-critical, self-censor and consequently, their self-esteem drops. At that stage, it seems that almost everything revolves around aesthetics.
This is due, in share, to the fact that a defined personal identity has not yet developed at that age, so the only reference they have is that of their peers, who, in turn, also give great importance to appearance. Exterior.
The physique in adulthood
However, once adolescence has passed and the adult stage has entered, this social importance to the physical may not continue. Some people do not overcome that dependency to be as presentable as possible. And this, on multiple occasions, causes gaps, conflicts or self-esteem problems. Thus, their self-esteem is built based on their appearance, clothing, and accessories…
Therefore, it is best to accept yourself as you are, with what you have come into the world that you want to do aesthetic retouching, well, perfect! But your self-esteem does not depend on it, nor on what they will say. The ideal would be to lower the aesthetic demands of oneself and increase them in terms of the way of being.
Most people comb their hair daily, dress elegantly, and care for their smell… But do we do the same with our interior? We nourish our skin to make it look beautiful, but do we feed our soul?
In the end, what brings the most happiness is well-developed emotional and mental health—a stable identity with good values.
